Taking applications for a new family

How do you make it ok in your mind when you are friends with someone who hurt another friend of yours to the core?

I had this friend who was ended up being very mean to me, hurt my feeling to the core when I was already at a very low point in my life and my cousin is now friends with this person on Facebook!  It makes me ill to see this bitch of a person leaving cute and funny comments on my cousins Facebook page. It makes me more ill that my cousin ever accepted her friend request in the first place knowing how much this person hurt me in the past. 

I see how very little I must mean to my cousin:

This was a message she sent on her birthday in response to all her birthday wishes she received.  Um. Hello. I called her and wished her a happy birthday and even bought her a gift card! And went to a BBQ where my cousin promptly ignored me on her birthday. I felt so sick being with my cousin that day and her ignoring me I ended up faking a tummy ache and leaving early.

When I told my cousin that we were thinking of moving, she said, “What makes you think you will feel anymore at home there than you do here?” Well, thanks to her and her befriending people that hurt me very badly and posting Facebook messages about how “my blood is not thicker than her friends water,” how can I possibly feel at home here with her? How am I expected to feel like her family when she does everything to make me NOT feel like family?

I’m sure to most of of you, I’m just being petty.  I should get over myself and move on. But my cousin and aunt are the only “family” I have left (except of course my own hubby and kids) and I see how little I mean to them- my aunt never calls me as in NEVER EVER.  It hurts. It hurts bad.

I know I was suppose to try funny today, but again, I just can’t. My feelings are hurt and I can’t hide behind funny today.

So, I’m taking applications for a new family. I need brothers, sisters and cousins! It doesn't take much to be accepted, just loyalty and understanding and a kind heart. 

Rocking this mom thing. Sorta. Well, it depends on who you ask really.

I wonder if when I was a child my mom had to tell me to brush my teeth, comb my hair, get my books ready for the next day and all that stuff.  I wonder if I just did it, or if my mom had to remind me every. single. night and day like a million times like I do with my own kids? 

I have to remind my kids every. single. night and day and they still sometimes forget and they mostly always give the me, “Ugggghhhhhh mmmmmoooooommmm, but I, but I, but I, but I…” It’s so annoying. 

Me: Go brush your teeth.

Me: That wasn’t two minutes!

Me: Go brush your teeth again.

Me: Brush your hair.

Me: Is all your stuff ready for school tomorrow? Everything signed that needs to be signed? All homework done? Any notes that I need to read? Clothes and socks picked out? Shoes by the front door?

And still every morning, “Mooooommmmm, I can’t find {insert some must have item- this morning it was a library card}. I can’t find socks! I can’t find my shoes! I can’t find my backpack!” It’s never ending.  And just for the record, the backpack, shoes, socks and all that are where THEY put them the night before.  I really don’t make this rocket science for them nor do I late at night sneak around the house hiding their items for the next day contrary to what they might think. 

One morning I would love to let them sleep as long as they think they need, go to school in their p.j.’s because of course, waking them up is a process.  Go to school with messy hair, stinky breath, no {must have item} and see how it works out for them.  Then maybe - just maybe - they will see what I’m doing for them by “nagging” them to do this. Do that. Make sure you have this/that/ and everything in between ready is a blessing! I should get mother of the freakin’ year! They really should bow down to me as I enter the room because I take such good care of them.  But of course, if I do let them “just do their own thing” they will come home with “Moooommmmm, you let us go to school all yucky and I had nothing for school and it’s all your fault! I hate you! You’ve ruined my life!” And I’m sure the school will call me and be like, “Did you mean to let your kids come to school this way? You know that’s not ok, right?” And that is when I will have to say, “Yes. Yes I did. Do you know what I have to go through every morning?!? Leave me alone. I’m rocking this mother thing. Good. Day!”

Do you remember being nagged by your parents growing up to brush your teeth, brush your hair, and get your stuff ready for the next day?

Do Not Read If You Are Afraid of The Biggest Mistake Ever Made

So, I’m watching ABC’s the Bachelor Pad.  Yes. I know. Don’t hate. I have a hardcore weakness or addiction, whatever for all things reality TV, though I have gotten away from all the VH1 shows. Where are the Rock of Love days of yesterday? Or even Flavor Flav? The VH1 shows of today just aren’t that captivating for me.  But I digress.

Tonight during Bachelor pad, I witnessed the “Biggest Mistake of Someone’s Life!” Can you believe that? Seriously! When I heard those words, I sat down quickly and braced myself for what the worst mistake ever made could possibly be so that I would be sure to NEVER EVER make such a mistake and I prayed to God to please not let me have made such a mistake before I even knew what it was.  

If you can handle it, please take a look at this video. I shot it with my phone so the quality isn’t great, but hopefully the message comes through clearly.   

Yes, you heard that right. She chose love and MADE THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HER LIFE (feel free to listen again if you can handle watching it again, it’s there, I promise!). 

Thank God I have never made such a mistake in my life!! And I will surely teach my child that following their hearts for love is the just about the most idiotic thing they can ever do.  We all know that love is no where in the equation of happiness, right? Like I tell my children everyday along with “brush your teeth” and “say your prayers”  I tell them, “a pretty smile- keep ALL YOUR DENTISTS appointments” (I didn’t when I was younger and now I have to get my teeth cleaned four times a year- YES FOUR TIMES!-  to ward off the gum disease that wants to over take my mouth, TMI? Ooops, sorry) – I tell my girls to “get a college degree and no credit card debt and the world will be yours for the taking!” – All mistakes that I have made that I do not want for them to follow because it sucks.  However, no where do I tell them to ever follow their hearts for love. AND THANK GOD for that! Obviously I’m doing something right with this parenting gig, Thank. God. 

I can go to sleep now knowing that I am part of making the next generation better than the one that came before it.  I expect in 40 years everyone reading this blog to send me big fat “thank you” flowers for a job well done once my children are in power of the entire world, nah, make that galaxy!  Free Hannah Montana tickets for everyone and absolutely no loving anyone at anytime and if you dare follow your heart for love, may God have mercy on your soul.    

What would be your “biggest mistake of your life?” Besides falling in love, of course.  Mine? Refinancing my old house.  Big fat jumbo I wish I could go back and change just one thing kind of mistake.